Is my parent an overt narcissist? Find out now. Take the quiz

Rate the following statements on a scale from 1 to 5, where 1 = strongly disagree and 5 = strongly agree. 

Part 1: Grandiosity, Superiority. entitlement

1. My parent frequently boasts about and exaggerates their achievements and talents.

2. My parent believes they are superior to others and deserve special treatment.

3. My parent expects constant admiration and attention from others.

 Part 2: Lack of Empathy

4. My parent rarely shows empathy or concern for my feelings.

5. My parent dismisses or belittles my emotions and experiences.

6. My parent seems indifferent to my wishes, needs, or struggles.

 Part 3: Manipulative Behavior

7. My parent uses people, including me, for their own gain without guilt or remorse.

8. My parent manipulates situations to maintain control and power.

9. My parent exploits others’ weaknesses or vulnerabilities to their benefit, including mine.

 Part 4: Boundary Issues

10. My parent disregards my boundaries and personal space.

11. My parent tries to control my decisions and choices either directly or by manipulation.

12. My parent insists on having things their way, regardless of my preferences.

 Part 5: Need for Control and Dominance

13. My parent becomes angry or aggressive when they don’t get their way.

15. My parent judges people who are more successful than them.

Part 6: Victim Mentality in other relationships

16. Other people have tried to avoid my parent, and my parent often claims to be the victim in these cases.

Part 7: Accountability

17. When confronted or criticized for their behavior, my parent responds with anger, defensiveness, blame-shifting, gaslighting, or portraying themselves as the victim.

Scoring

  • Add up your scores from each section to get a total score out of 85.
  • Higher scores indicate a higher likelihood of overt narcissistic traits in your parent.

Interpretation

    • 0-21: Low likelihood of overt narcissistic traits.
    • 22-42: Moderate likelihood; some overt narcissistic traits may be present.
    • 43-63: High likelihood; significant overt narcissistic traits may be present.
    • 64-85: Very high likelihood; strong presence of overt narcissistic traits

Please note that

This test provides a structured approach to assess overt narcissistic traits in parents. It’s important to remember that these tests serve as tools for self-assessment and understanding and should not replace professional evaluation or advice. If you suspect narcissistic behavior in a parent, consider seeking professional support for further assessment and guidance.

My parent is an overt narcissist. Now what?​

Discovering that your parent may have narcissistic traits can be incredibly painful and challenging. Here are some initial steps you can consider:

  1. Educate Yourself: Learn more about narcissistic behavior and its effects on relationships. This knowledge can help you understand what you’re dealing with.

  2. Seek Support:  Working with a professional who understands narcissistic abuse dynamic can provide invaluable support. Connect with trusted friends or a support group.

  3. Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your well-being and create safety for you to heal.

  4. Self-Care: Prioritize your own mental and emotional health. Engage in activities that bring you joy and reduce stress.

How I can Help

As you embark on this journey, know that you have someone in your corner, ready to support you every step of the way. Together, we can work on each of the above steps and develop personalized strategies to help you heal and thrive.

My approach is rooted in empathy, understanding, and unconditional support. I’m here to listen without judgment, to validate your experiences, and to help you reclaim your power and autonomy. Whether you’re just beginning to unravel the complexities of narcissistic abuse or you’re further along in your healing journey, I’m here to meet you where you are and guide you toward a place of healing and empowerment.

You deserve to live a life free from the shadow of your past. If you’re ready to take the first step towards healing, I invite you to reach out. Together, we can rewrite your story and create a future filled with hope, resilience, and self-love.

With warmth and compassion,

Prachiti Aras

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