Is my parent a covert narcissist? Find out now. Take the quiz

Rate the following statements on a scale from 1 to 5, where 1 = strongly disagree and 5 = strongly agree.

Part 1: Victim Mentality and Martyrdom

1. My parent often plays the victim to gain sympathy or attention.

2. My parent portrays themselves as self-sacrificing and altruistic.

3. My parent uses guilt and pity to manipulate me and others..

 Part 2: Passive-Aggressive Behavior

4. My parent expresses anger or resentment indirectly, through subtle remarks or behaviors.

5. My parent avoids direct confrontation when upset but uses silent treatment, withdrawal instead, indirect taunts, guilt-tripping, or other toxic behaviors.

6. My parent undermines others’ achievements or successes covertly.

 Part 3: Superiority Complex

7. My parent secretly believes they are more intelligent or morally superior to others.

8. My parent feels entitled to special treatment but doesn’t openly demand it but plays victim if they don’t receive it.

9. My parent subtly competes with others to prove their worth or superiority.

 Part 4: Lack of Accountability

10. My parent blames me, others, or external factors for their own mistakes or shortcomings.

11. My parent rarely apologizes sincerely; their apologies often come with justifications or excuses, portrayals of themselves as victims, guilt-trips, or as a means to end an argument

12. My parent avoids taking responsibility for their actions uses tactics like playing victim, blame-shifting, gaslighting, dismissing, ignoring (stonewalling) to deny accountability. 

 Part 5: Emotional Manipulation

13. My parent uses emotional manipulation to control others’, including my decisions.

14. My parent gaslights others by denying responsibility or distorting reality to suit their narrative.

15. My parent portrays themselves as the victim when confronted with criticism or accountability.

Part 6: Crossing boundaries

My parent disregards my boundaries and those of others, often using covert tactics such as crossing boundaries and feigning forgetfulness, playing the victim after crossing a boundary, guilt-tripping when boundaries are set, or resorting to emotional blackmail.

Part 7: Smear campaigns against those who stand-up

17. When someone stands up to my parent or sets boundaries, my parent initiates smear campaigns against them, portraying these individuals negatively and distorting the truth to paint themselves as the victim.